Philippians 4:6-7, My take…

Jul1
mountainside praying at sunrise
Saying thanks even when we don’t feel like it!

I have a one hour drive to the small country church where my husband pastors. The routine is he leaves before me and I drive in about an hour and half later. The larger portions of my journey are down a rural highway. So mostly I get to enjoy the displays of the four seasons whose star attraction is the stately trees.

Since the drive is somewhat lengthy, I habitually plug in my phone to a music app and select “Contemporary Christian Bands.” Since I am the sole listener, I get to pay attention to the words. And I pay attention because God is always faithful to whisper truths I need to be reminded of.

With grandchildren growing up and out, I just don’t get to enjoy their companionship as I use to. And because my kids either live too far away or a busy life prevents visits, their company is lacking as well. It’s hard to adjust to my solemn days. And I have to confess, lonely. My husband is a big help for having to do for him, keeps my mind occupied. But as a mom and grandmother, I find that the temptation to worry increases as the time between visits decreases.

Thus on the trip to church last Sunday God directed me to do something I hadn’t really done before. He charged me to evaluate the inner voice that was reminding me of the declining moments of memory making with my children and grans. To ask myself what was that inner voice trying to accomplish by reminding me of my sadness. I thought I was just pondering these sad thoughts in an attempt to try an understanding my aching heart.

While listening to a variety of songs I was reminded of God’s question. And I began noticing something. The words in the songs, reflected God’s faithfulness, mercy, compassion, and, yes, blessings even in difficult days. But that didn’t match up with the dialog in my head. So obviously, it wasn’t that I needed to have a better understanding of my troubles. The whisperings I was getting from God was ‘change the record.’

The point God was making was beginning to sink in. The feelings of sadness (feeling sorry for myself) were not prompted by God. With His encouragement, I now evaluate those thoughts as to their origin. And, as to their purpose. The answer is pretty obvious.

All I have to do to thwart the enemy’s attacks is to thank God for this season of my life. Children grow up and often move away. But God doesn’t run out of ideas for our lives when our house grows quiet and empty. Turning to Him in anticipation of what’s next will reveal new things to be thankful for. By allowing an attitude of thanksgiving to rule my thoughts. I will know peace. Not worry. Not sadness. Not loneliness. But a new appreciation for the changes God is making in my life.

Colossians 3:13, my take…

Jun24
Couple hugging with eyes closed in a warmly lit living room

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13 NLT


The Apostle Paul wrote this letter to the Christians in Colossae around AD 62 while imprisoned in Rome, addressing a church threatened by false teachings that diminished Christ’s supremacy and the new identity of believers in Him (Colossians 1:2, 28; 2:9–10) Historical context…

The book of Colossians reads as if it was written for our present day world. So much so that I feel it beckoning to me often lately. Most recently the 13th verse of Chapter 3. I’m familiar with the part of the verse that reminds us to forgive others as God forgave us. But you know what grabbed my attention in recent days? The phrase, “make allowances for each other’s faults…” caught my attention like other translations hadn’t.

What does ‘make allowances’ look like? In order for my readers to not miss what making allowances looks like, I am just going to have to resort to copying and pasting what my research turned up:

Practically, it looks like:

  • Patience in the face of mistakes – When someone does something wrong, you resist the urge to dwell on it or to make them pay. Instead, you “bear with” them, meaning you endure their shortcomings without condemnation BibleRef.com.
  • Choosing grace over condemnation – You recognize that everyone makes mistakes, and you respond with kindness and compassion, even when you’ve been wronged biblerepository.com.
  • Forgiveness without holding grudges – Forgiveness here is not about excusing harmful behavior, but about letting go of resentment and not using the offense to hurt someone again biblerepository.com.
  • Reflecting Christ’s forgiveness – The verse ties this to the fact that God forgave you completely when you were undeserving. “Making allowance” is living out that same mercy in your relationships Heartlight.
  • Active reconciliation – It can involve speaking gently, offering help, and restoring harmony when conflict arises BibleRef.com.

Sometimes our familiarity with terms like ‘forgiveness’ can cause assumptions that hide the practical applications. Assumptions that trick us into thinking we understand when it’s only a surface perception. I realized after returning to ‘make allowances’ time and time again, I had not grasped what that looked like.

And I regret that at 77 years of age, my focus is just now diving deeper. Now, when I ask myself, “What does making allowances look like?” I shift from what I thought I knew to plunging into a deeper understanding of forgiveness! Using the Bible as my point of reference.

After a lifetime of repetitive mistakes, I am compelled to make the effort of applying the 5 practical principles listed above. Goodness, this isn’t going to be easy. But ‘just telling myself the right thing to do is to forgive’ but not blending it with what the verse leads out with is incomplete obedience.

Well, dear readers, may my ingrained incomplete response over most of my life confession, become for you (and for me) a wake up call. Do whatever you feel compelled to do to add the above practical applications to what ‘making allowances’ looks like as you forgive others. It won’t be easy but it will be doable!

A Book For Fathers – the Bible…

Jun21

June 21, 2026

Father’s are the first book their children will read! What will it tell them?

I think that if a father is seeking a guide book on how to be the best father he can be, he should look for:

A book that teaches about unconditional love. 

A book that teaches about forgiveness. 

A book that teaches how to put other’s needs (not wants), especially their children’s, above their own. 

A book that teaches about sacrificial love. 

A book that teaches how to subdue their pride, especially when it comes to their children. 

A book that teaches how a father should guide their children. 

A book that teaches about tough love when faced with a rebellious child. 

A book that teaches him how to expect the best from their children. 

A book that teaches them how to teach their children to think for themselves; not spoon-feed knowledge/truths to them. 

A book that teaches them how to lead their children by example. 

A book that teaches them how to teach their children to respect authority. 

A book that teaches their children how to stand up for those being wronged.

A book that teaches about the importance of honoring others. 

A book that teaches them how to be an example of courage. 

A book that teaches them to stand strong in their faith.

And finally, a book that would teach them how to be the kind of father that would reflect the Heavenly Father. 

And that book would be the Bible!

Because after all, a child first learns about God’s character by first witnessing it in their earthly fathers. That image will either prepare their hearts to love God or reject Him. Or create such a disinterest they will not pursue finding out who the Heavenly Father is. 

Turn my eyes…Psalm 119:37

Jun17
Family of five sitting on a couch using various digital devices including smartphones, a tablet, and a handheld console

Turn my eyes
from looking at what is worthless;
give me life in Your ways. Psalm 119:37 HCSB

When my grans were younger I had the extreme pleasure of interacting with them often. Goodness that was fun. But I digress! I would remind them that I prayed for them whenever they came to my mind. Often, God would give me a verse that zeroed in on their needs. Praying for my own 4 (their parents, of course) gave me the foundation for how to pray. And as time refined my prayer effort, I learned that praying Scripture that applied to a need strengthened my prayers.

Psalm 119:37 addresses the need we have as parents and adults to deal with the digital crises of today. Why, most children today learned to tap a screen before they learned to read! Parents, unaware that they were loosing their own creative power to model desirable behavior, handed their toddlers a device to keep them occupied. Not only did the power to train their children toward good behavior suffer loss, their children became addicted to the pull of the digital screen. And guess what, those children are now adults and they are suffering from the same addiction.

I’m not blogging about something you are not aware of. But while we are beginning to sit up and take notice, what are we doing about it? Well, one thing we have got to grasp is the fact that too much screen time is a gateway to temptation. It’s kinda like opening Pandora’s box. For not just for children, but for adults as well.

But you know what? It’s not only digital screens that provide a gateway to temptation. What about the shows we watch on tv or movies or music videos? What about our reading material? And then again, while the danger may not be in what we are looking at necessarily, what about the time we spend looking at it? What about that inner voice that questions us about the time we are spending on screens?When we gain the momentum to turn away from the worthless distractions (just go ahead and label these fiery darts) of the enemy, we need the protective power of God’s wisdom to know what to turn to.

Christian parents and/or adults take heed. The Bible speaks to this directly. How are we going to be able to identify what is worthless? We start with anything that contradicts Scripture. Obviously, it’s up to us to become familiar enough with God’s word in order to recognize the contradictions. Then in identifying the contradictions we must be able to turn from them. Again, the wisdom and strength we need to pull this off is found in Scripture.

So if we desire a life shaped by the word of God for ourselves and our children, then we must be willing to turn from the worthless distractions fashioned by the enemy. The Bible will show us how!

Thanks for the memories…

Jun10
Philippians 1:3 – “I thank my God every time I remember you.”

As I drove past the spot (we referred to it as the halfway point) where I often met my 2 daughters to transfer my grandchildren, my thoughts were inundated with memories. For that was a church parking lot located about half way between my house and theirs. So it was a convenient arrangement time wise to pick up or drop off my grans. You can make lots of memories sitting in the car waiting for Mom or Dad after arriving at the parking lot. Fun, sweet, and often humorous ones.

I have such a store of delightful memories at that dear spot. But inevitably I spoil the sweetness by seasoning it with sadness. For I no longer get to make such memories. My cute little funny grans are all grown up now. Driving themselves when they come to visit Nammy & Grandaddy. And even two of them moved to another state while they were still in that cute little funny stage.

Had it not been for an earlier conversation I had had with God that day, my longing for those memories that just don’t happen as much anymore would have intensified. Preparing the ground for seeds of sadness. Instead, God countered them with the following question:

“What about thanking Me for those precious memories, instead of feeling sad because you don’t have them anymore?”

It’s not so easy doing that, you know. For the evil one would have me regret that those days are passed. That would result, as you probably have experienced yourself, in a burden that would grow heavier with every revisited memory. I don’t want to do that, and I’m sure you don’t either.

The reality that I was just feeling sorry for myself became glaringly obvious. So, I decided to put into practice God’s remedy for my pity party. I was motivated to do so because the enemy uses this as a weapon against me way too often. So I purposed then and there that I would resist the temptation of self pity. I would counter Satan’s weapon to feel sorry for myself with God’s mighty weapon of Thankfulness.

So when any sweet memory surfaces about those tender days, I will thank God for those memories. For I have an abundance of memories with my grans and instead of feeling sad that they are declining, I’m going to focus on how grateful I am that I have sooooo many.

A Day of Remembering…

May27
Four soldiers in uniform standing and bowing heads by a Memorial Day grave marker with an American flag at half-mast
Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13 NIV
William Larry Evans
June 7, 1967
Vietnam War

We lost Larry in the Vietnam War. I remember so many details of that era. Introducing him to one of my best friends, Linda, to whom he eventually became engaged to right before he left for the war. And to whom it fell to me to deliver the heart-rendering news to her that ripped away the life they had planned together.

With every remembrance of that tragic day, I still feel my heart pounding painfully. Yet I knew it was the love Larry felt for his fiancee, his family, his friends, and the love of his country that empowered him to leave us. He was willing to lay down his life on the field of battle, sacrificing his tomorrows so that those he loved might live in freedom today.

Larry’s sacrificial death puts me in remembrance of the sacrificial death of our Savior. For it was Christ’s greater love for mankind that empowered Him to endure the horrible pain of the Cross. For by His death, and our choice we inherit the permanent home in heaven He has prepared for those who love Him.

Therefore, it is our responsibility to honor those who made that ultimate sacrifice by living lives that uphold the principles our country stands for. Likewise, it is our responsibility to live our lives in a manner that reflects the truths Christ died for.

May Memorial Day always be a day to honor those who gave their lives for our peace and for our freedom. And to be reminded of the One whose ultimate act of love secured our eternal home in heaven.

Isaiah 54:17, My take…

May20
Isaiah 54:17
based on Isaiah 54:17 NIV

“no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and this is their vindication from me,” declares the LORD.” Isaiah 54:17 NIV

Here’s a bit of context regarding the above verse: Isaiah was a prophet during the time that Jerusalem had been destroyed by the Babylonians. And many, esp the leaders and skilled workers were exiled to Babylon. The Israelites faced many hardships both physically and spiritually. During these hardships God encouraged His people with the above words.

It is verses like these that we can turn to when life’s storms are raging. God reassures us of His protection. Here’s the key point. We all know that difficulties and hard times are simply a part of life. Reality is that they cannot be avoided. They must be endured. But God in His loving mercy does not allow the enemy the victory. In other words, the plan our enemy may have had in mind will be thwarted. It will not have its expected end.

While the enemy may have had in mind a variety of destructive plans, God can turn the tide. The very thing the enemy meant to harm us with, God turns into something that will bring about good. I remember a particularly difficult period in my life when I was almost overwhelmed with despair. I felt myself spiraling downward. I even remember pleading with God to hang on to me for I had no strength to hang on to Him. While I was battle worn, I did survive but I was not destroyed. I clung to what I knew to be true about God.

The lessons I learned as I fought against the enemy increased. With every battle fought and won, I gained wisdom and strength. Journaling was my therapy during those challenging days. Therefore as I recorded those lessons, my book Fiery Darts: Satan’s Weapon of Choice emerged. Satan meant to destroy my witness and thus my family. But with every struggle, I cried out to God. That’s why I could give God thanks for the trial. For with every trial, I learned how to defeat the enemy. Had I not faced the trial, my book might have never happened.

So from these assaults by the enemy, or our personal self centered failures, we can be assured that things can turn out far differently than the enemy meant for them to. But the key is to turn to God during those times. Cry out in prayer, seek godly counsel, dive into the Scriptures for answers. The more we do so, the stronger and wiser we become. And the weapons formed against us will not prevail!

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Isaiah 61:3, My take…

May13

To give some context, Jesus was in the synagogue reading the above verse. He declared to the listeners that He was the one the prophet Isaiah was speaking of, The Messiah.

What I want us to do is direct our attention to is what the Messiah, Jesus Christ, has to offer those who believe in Him:

a crown of beauty instead of ashes

joyous blessing instead of mourning

praise instead of despair

The words ashes, mourning, despair reflect a state of misery. Now contrast that with beauty, joy, praise. I wonder why any sane person would choose ashes, mourning, and despair over beauty, joy, and praise. I’ve pondered this often. And I have noticed, even in the Christian community, there are those who take their belief in God too casually. They don’t feel the need to engage in Bible reading or invest time in prayer. They don’t feel the need to become involved with a community of fellow believers. For the enemy has blinded them to the necessity of these for good spiritual health.

But you see, they won’t feel these needs, if they avoid learning what the Bible has to say about living such a life. The enemy stands ready to convince individuals that going your own way promises the greatest and most desirable form of freedom.

But that’s nothing but a trap of lies. For Christianity holds the promise of genuine freedom. For you know, Jesus really did die to pay the price for our freedom, so we wouldn’t have to. It’s no lie. When we leave this earth we truly are bound for heaven as God’s own. So let’s open our eyes, and refuse to be deceived by the enemy, the liar. He desires to destroy as many of us as possible. Just to get back at God.

However, if we would rather become oaks of righteousness, possessing the transforming power of exchanging what the enemy has for us for what Christ has for us, then it’s a matter of who we permit to rule our thoughts. Thoughts which are ruled by God’s word will know true eternal freedom!

Philippians 4:6-7, My take…

May6

When the apostle Paul wrote the letter to the Philippian Christians, he was in prison in Rome. And while in chains he is writing this letter of encouragement and joy to them. Seriously! How is it possible that Paul could avoid being anxious or not worry in such a setting? Paul gave the formula for how such a thing is accomplished. Pray! And not only pray but pray with an attitude of thanksgiving.

This verse gives us a lot to take in. Our sin nature balks when we are told not to worry. It’s quite difficult to face a challenging situation that any normal human being wouldn’t worry about. Oh, and may I remind you about the fiery darts. Worry or being anxious is definitely one of the enemy’s most often used weapons against us.

So don’t let worry or anxiety catch us off guard. Don’t for one minute believe the lie that we can’t help worrying. Therefore, in order to prevent being overwhelmed with worrisome thoughts, we need to shift our focus. And that’s where prayer comes in. Prayer must be our default response when the temptation to worry or become anxious assaults us. Two components of prayer in this verse are: the kind of prayer where we share our feelings about the situation with God, and petition is where we make specific requests concerning the situation.

In this verse we are advised to flavor all those prayers with an attitude of thanksgiving. Maybe I can describe how this works with a personal antidote. A reoccurring temptation to worry about my future often makes attempts to intrude my thought processes. But I know if I allow those thoughts to enter my head, they will take over. (FD’s 3rd edition, p66) Therefore, I immediately put a ‘Not welcomed” sign over the doorway of my mind when those fiery darts attempt entry. And I block those temptations with prayer.

In my time of prayer I not only cry out to God about my worries, but I frame them within an attitude of thanksgiving. I thank God that He is in control of my situation. That He is my refuge and strength which I can call upon. That in the midst of my circumstance God’s comforting presence is with me. Eventually, an unexplainable sense of peace will fill in the space left by the rejected worry.

So, we can worry thus invite an assortment of fiery darts. All fashioned to take up residence in our thoughts. Or we can choose to reject the enemy’s lies. And take a deep dive into the Scriptures for the mighty weapons of God that will expose the lies. These will be the Truth thoughts which will now rule our thinking. Thus, an unexplainable peace will settle over us like a calming breeze guarding our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.