So, to recap my last two posts on Negative Teasing, the fiery dart is:
It’s okay to make put down statements about someone as long as you are teasing!
The verse to counter this lie is:
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
And remember, you can tease someone in a fun way without it being negative. Just ask yourself this question, “Will what I want to say benefit or build up the hearer?” Remember now, just because what you are saying makes them laugh doesn’t mean it’s wholesome talk!
NOW, LET’S EXAMINE “MAKING MEMORIES!”
Memories happen with the living of life obviously, and if you are not careful you will live your whole life overlooking the importance of being deliberate about making memories. Consider this: fiery darts are subtle lies that on the one hand contain common sense truths, that when examined from a Christian worldview, turn out to be nothing short of a lie. Therefore, when you think about making memories the fiery darts you may have to deal with may go something like this:
Making memories means taking vacations; something our family just can’t afford! Besides even if we could afford it we don’t have the time!
Yes, times are hard and vacations figure way down on the priority list when it comes to deciding how to manage our income. The fiery dart here is that vacations are not a priority. So we give up the opportunity to spend time together as a family, away from the demands of our daily routines. Fiery dart thinking in this case is designed to keep hidden from us the value of drawing away from our daily grind to experience the healing and rejuvenation that this venue provides in making memories.
Therefore, time and money, are prime sources to spawn a fiery dart when you are contemplating taking your family on vacation. It takes a great deal of strength to resist the fiery dart that you don’t have the time to go on vacation. Therefore, it’s vital to the well being of your family to recognize this temptation for the fiery dart that it is.
We have only to examine the life of Jesus to understand the value of drawing apart from the world in order to spend time with those you love. He did this with his disciples and most importantly with His Father. We should do no less with our own families.
But realistically, full-blown vacations for some of you are beyond your resources. So what are you to do about spending time together to add to your store of memories with the family?
If taking a full blown vacation is out of the question, then get creative and plan inexpensive events with the expressed purpose of spending time focused time together. You don’t even have to spend money, or at least very little money. There’s parks nearly everywhere and they are free. Pack a picnic lunch and a blanket, maybe a ball and bat or frisbee, some good reading material, music cd’s, the kids favorite toys, or bikes whatever suits your fancy and go enjoy some quality time with your family. And, oh yeah, make it a practice to do this ever so often. You’ll be so glad you did, especially when you get together in days to come and discover that you have a large store of memories to draw from.
The previous is just one idea, but I’m sure that if you put your mind to it, you’ll come up with an abundance of ways to spend some special times with your family and make those wonderful memories. Remember, these events should be designed to not only give your family time to spend with each other, but that time should be focused time.
Hey, I just had a great idea! Why don’t you send me your creative ideas for family outings. I’ll post them so we can get ideas from each other! And, of course, share the fiery darts that interfered with your family outing plans. We all need ideas on how to overcome those menacing temptations.
Be prepared though for those fiery darts that will mess with your plans.
This isn’t the time to deal with “stuff”. (Stuff should be dealt with, just not during your making memories time!)
Also, you’ll be tempted to include activities that having nothing to do with your little vacation-like time. (Remember, your family should have your undivided attention during these times!)
Let’s review the fiery darts of making memories:
Making memories means taking vacations and we can’t afford them. (If that’s how you define making memories then you’ve just been sacked by a fiery dart thought!)
We don’t have time to take a family outing. (But you do have time to deal with the issues, conflicts, and stresses that being too busy creates?)
I’m not sure my family would think that taking a family outing would be much fun. (Sure, if this isn’t something you do very often. But the more you do it and the more careful you are about planning them, then the more fun they’ll become!)
Undeniably, making memories can certainly be enriched by enjoying focused time together either during a vacation or a family outing. But as we are always fashioning memories by just living life, next post I would like to address a more common aspect of memory making.